Doris B. Ferm

August 13, 1924 - May 03, 2013

Doris B. Ferm

August 13, 1924 - May 03, 2013

Obituary

Doris Ferm, 88, died peacefully at her Bellingham home on May 3 after a brief illness. She will be profoundly missed by her family, the Bellingham Friends Meeting, and the peace and justice and environmental advocacy communities. Her humble yet determined leadership and quiet faith provided steadfast support and set an example of dedication and integrity.

She was born Doris Lippincott Bye in August 1924 to Raymond Taylor and Virginia Higgins Bye, in Philadelphia, PA. Raised a Quaker with a lifelong commitment to peacemaking, Doris in young adulthood had a profound spiritual experience of oneness with all creation. This became the guiding focus of her life: to live in respectful coexistence with all Earth’s creatures, to seek harmony and justice in local communities, and to advocate for peace among people everywhere.

Doris graduated from Swarthmore College with honors, and earned an M.S. in Geology from Penn State University. In June 1949, she married John Charles Ferm. They had three children over the course of the next dozen years, and raised them in Illinois, Kentucky, Louisiana, and South Carolina, returning to Kentucky in 1979.

Doris helped found the Columbia, SC, Friends (Quaker) Meeting in the early 1970s, served as editor of the Southern Appalachian Yearly Meeting and Association newsletter, and was a charter member of the Columbia Audubon Society. It was during this period that she began to change her life in accordance with her beliefs about Earth: she became first a vegetarian, then vegan; redoubled her efforts to live simply; and began recycling long before it was common or convenient. In 1980, when she and John returned to Lexington, KY, Doris became active in the Lexington Friends Meeting, in Ohio Valley Yearly Meeting, and as a board member of the Central Kentucky Council for Peace & Justice. She also helped found the Central Kentucky Fellowship of Reconciliation.

In 1993, she wrote a poem entitled Journey:

Through all my living
how the wilder lives of Earth
brought forth my joy,
and taught me how to be
myself.

And I, slow learner,
at last have opened up to that within,
to that which teaches
how to love, to trust,
to care for
all that breathing, growing, feeding, glowing, is.

And in the coming dark,
Across the western sky,
May homeward flights of birds
Now guide me toward the light.

Although she was painfully shy as a child and a young woman, later in life Doris became an able public speaker, and was several times asked to address large gatherings on the subject of peace and the environment. A longtime member of Quaker Earthcare Witness, she gave the keynote address at Ohio Valley Yearly Meeting Annual Session in 2006, concluding: Let us live in communion with all Life Spirit, knowing that wherever we are, we are walking on holy ground.

A faithful matriarch to her family, Doris moved to Bellingham, WA, after John’s death in 1999, to be closer to her daughters, their partners, and her two grandchildren. Here, peace-making and the current environmental crisis became the focus of her activism. She volunteered at Northwest Ecosystem Alliance (now Conservation Northwest) for many years, becoming a valued part of the Bellingham office, and also was awarded the Lifetime Peacemaker Award in 2008 by the Whatcom Peace and Justice Center. Doris enjoyed gardening, corresponding with friends, giving gifts to her extended family and close friends, and caring for her beloved cat, Sunshine.

When word of her final illness reached her community, nearly fifty people gathered in her small backyard May 3, to serenade her with songs of love and peace. Among the songs raised was her request: There are Angels Hovering ‘Round. She fell asleep to the sound of singing, and died a few hours later, surrounded by the love of her family. In accordance with her wishes, her remains were given a green burial at the Greenacres Memorial Park Meadow.

She is survived by her daughters, Peg Ferm (Gregg Hoover) of Monroe, WA, and Carol Virginia Ferm Herrick (Mark Herrick) of Bellingham; her grandchildren, Kendra and Ian Herrick of Bellingham; her sister, Florence Satterthwaite of Moscow, ID; a numerous devoted nieces, nephews, and great-nieces and -nephews. She is preceded in death by her husband, John C. Ferm; her son, John Barclay Ferm; and her sister, Elinor B. Harry of Bellingham.

Farewell Tribute Information

A Quaker memorial service, hosted by the Bellingham Friends Meeting, will be held at 3 p.m. Sunday, June 16, 2013, in the social hall at the First Congregational Church of Bellingham, 2401 Cornwall Avenue. All friends of Doris are welcome! Donations Information

In lieu of flowers, memorials may be made to: Bellingham Friends Meeting, P.O. Box 30144, Bellingham, WA 98228-2144; Whatcom Peace & Justice Center, P.O. Box 2444, Bellingham, WA 98227; Quaker Earthcare Witness, 173 B N. Prospect St., Burlington, VT 05401-1607; or Conservation Northwest, 1208 Bay St., Bellingham, WA 98225.

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26 responses to Doris B. Ferm

  1. Doris was an amazing woman who was an inspiration to me. We served together for quite a few years on her beloved Friends Earthcare Committee of Bellingham Friends Meeting. Doris had an abiding love of the natural world and all creation. I will miss her insights and strong spirit.

  2. Tim Moore says:

    From the first time I was invited for dinner at John and Doris’ house in Kentucky, I felt lucky to know her. The kindness, intelligence and compassion that exuded from Doris’ spirit was tangible. My life has been enriched through knowing Doris and I am deeply fortunate to been able to introduce her to my partner and son before she died.

  3. I miss my mom so much, but when I get a little clarity from the loss, I feel mainly gratitude. Lucky to have been her daughter, lucky to have loved and laughed and cried and comforted and been comforted by her, all through the years of our lives together. She had some wisdom, some foolishness, a light heart and a beautiful smile. She was resilient, determined, opinionated, and — whatever anyone else may say — not in the least “sweet”! She could be very gentle, though, particularly with small furry creatures, and was almost always kind to me. And I loved what a friend wrote about her, that in all the “splits and spats” of collective activism, injustice was her only foe. It’s true. She had no time for infighting. She kept her eye on the brass ring. I know she’s out there still, bending her considerable will toward peace, justice, and harmony with all the Earth.

  4. Lisa Marcus says:

    Doris was an inspiration to me!

  5. Betsy Neale says:

    Doris was such a gift to all who knew her. She embodied love, grace, and integrity. I was a very new Quaker when I arrived in Kentucky in 1983, and Doris mentored me in both Quakerism and peace and social justice activism. I hold her family in the Light.

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